Sunday, 2 October 2011

Suffer Little Children


A Baptismal sermon preached by Ray Anglesea at St Andrew’s Dawson Street, Crook, Sunday 2nd October 2011

Congratulations to Barrie and Joanne on Emileigh’s baptism. May the welcome your child has experienced today here in church infuse your family’s faith life for all time! 

Here’s a delightful story. At the recent wedding of Zara Phillips and Mike Tindall, the bride’s cousins, Princes William and Harry, read an extract from Margery Williams’ classic children’s story, The Velveteen Rabbit.        The story is about a boy who receives a Velveteen rabbit for Christmas.  The Velveteen Rabbit is snubbed by other more expensive or mechanical toys; they fancy themselves as real. One day while talking with the Skin Horse, the rabbit asks the horse what it means to be “a real person”. The horse replies that it means being loved. “It doesn't happen all at once. You become real. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.” “Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are real, you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand – once you are real, you can’t become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
Well it is a long time since I read that story to my children. Years later Hollywood still tells the same tale in children’s movies like Toy Story and Shrek, which is why they speak to parents as well as children. Love transforms. It makes us beautiful in the eyes of those who love us. It makes us real.
That is the great truth at the heart of the Christian faith. God’s love makes us beautiful in His eyes – and in ours when we see ourselves reflected in His. That is what makes us real: not physical beauty which fades over time, but spiritual beauty which can grow over time. We allow ourselves to be made real by God’s love, with all our imperfections, pain and limitations. It was the poet W.H. Auden who said:-
Beloved, we are always in the wrong, handling so clumsily our stupid lives................
One thing that always strikes me is how little Jesus himself has to say about sin. He seems much more concerned with lack of love. Perhaps that is really what sin is ultimately, the failure of love. It was at Jesus’ baptism in the River Jordan that God’s said “This is my son whom I love, listen to him.” Here was a moment of sheer intense intimacy, a moment in time when God’s heart was revealed to his son. God’s greatest command is that we should love one another. Where do we find love? In the tiniest hazelnut, says Mother Julian: it exists because God loves it. In the entire sweep of the universe, says Dante, because it is ‘love that moves the sun and the other stars’. But today love has a human face in Emiligh. And to her very young life we bring our own memories of those who have loved us into life, whose lives are interwoven with ours and made us what we are.
Barrie and Joanne – God is committed to the flourishing, well being and happiness of your family, you have embarked on this great journey of love, not only of loving each other but on loving Emiligh and Jordan. As parents you are going to be their role models of what human love is like, you are going to be the role models of what God’s love is like. Having five children on my own you I can assure you will be in for some challenging times and experiences. Let’s face it - recent UNICEF reports on the upbringing of British children are not very encouraging; Britain according to this international agency is the worst place in the developed world to be a child; parents and their children are locked into a consumption cycle where mothers and fathers rarely say no to their children’s’ demands; children sit in media bedsits where they have their own TV, internet, game consoles and phones. Oh really – is our popular modern British culture as bad as all that? As couples say in rocky relationships in popular B movies – it’s not us UNICEF; it’s you.
Well who said bringing up children would be easy? In every serious relationship there will be ups and downs, moments of tension, discord, in human terms there will be nights with a crying child, falling out, tears, naughty children may have to be disciplined, there will be  frustration about the lack of employment opportunities, insufficient funds and days when we just feel down, tired and bored. And with all the pressures of family life it is often difficult to make headway. But Joanne and Barrie you are surrounded by loving families with offers of help and support, sleep-overs, shopping, grandparents love giving their grandchildren back to parents. Use them. We as a church are here to help you too, our doors are open, you have our telephone numbers, we too can provide help and support, education and teenage training. Alas human beings live in a world of good and bad and that makes our lives and relationships painful and complicated but not so with God. God will never give up on you, even if you run away from him. Joanne and Barrie never stop loving each other  - you are for Emileigh and Jorja what human love and family life is like and can be for the rest of their lives – they will learn from you, you will be there examples. And in all this we, as we are able, together, will do everything possible to keep our promises to love, help and support you.
So today I want to give thanks for our popular modern culture, children no longer go to work up chimneys or go down mines when they are out of trousers, we do not require children to enlist as soldiers in military campaigns, work in sweat shops making trainers and clothes. I want to say a great yes for children growing up in a free Britain, in our welfare state, the greatest act of communal generosity in history. Here in Crook magnificent Sure Start Children's Centres provide a variety of advice and support for parents and carers from pregnancy right through to when children go into reception class.  Four/fifths of children are literate, 40% will go to university and many in Emileigh’s life time will live to be a hundred. We are a nation that gives ever more to charities, we are increasingly tolerant of class, colour, gender, race, religion and sexual preference, advances in medicine and scientific discoveries take our breath away, just think in Emileigh’s life time men and women may have reached and have set foot on Mars. But our greatest cause of thanksgiving this morning is that God has committed himself yet again to one more human family, the Rayner’s here in Crook, and in the lives of this lovely family with whom today we join in celebration, we see that embracing, renewing and hopeful vision of God’s faithful love, a love that like the Velveteen rabbit discovered makes us real.
One reason we find such children’s stories childish is that, in them, things work out the way we hope they will. The good win, the wicked are vanquished and the heroes live happily ever after. Life isn’t like that, we tell ourselves. But it could be less unlike it than it is. Which is why it is not naive to see the world through the eyes of love, for that is how God sees us.
May God bless you on your journey, and may your child’s baptism open your eyes to live the faith more fully.
Amen


Ray Anglesea is a self supporting minister working in St Andrew’s Dawson Street LEP, Crook and in the wider West Durham Methodist Circuit

No comments:

Post a Comment